Self-loathing is a lie and self-love is the truth. So many stories accumulated through life from society, from bullies, unconsciously even from loved ones during fights and those created by self. However, what is so cool about it all is, it is always a choice what to take on. Seeing these are stories and not the only ones.
There are nurturing stories also accumulated through life, from society, yes even from bullies, and deeply from loved ones and self.
Society doesn’t have all the answers, it’s just an accumulation of evolution and tradition finding its way. It is both benign and malignant because humanity is both. It is just an expression of ideas constantly evolving with no filter. This is what makes social expression alive and what begs social expression be challenged.
Bullies, while I am very clear in my boundaries that I do not have to take hate on, as the musician hears the space between the notes, so do the bullies accent the space between their pain dealing. The space between, that peace, is the space they do not allow themselves and so they project what they allow- pain. They live their pain dealing, every day, they give this to themselves.
Loved ones, well we fight, we love, we connect deeper through it all. Transmuting, evolving. That is love, there is no space for perfection in love.
Self, choosing which stories to live by, that is where the compassion and power is for me. Facing the reality that, I get to choose what I keep. I get to choose to really understand, more and more each time I meet with my dragons, that I get to choose. My shadow shows me all of it plain as day. Gives me wings to take a good sky view of it all. And I get to see the absurdity in its raw form. I get to see all self-loathing stories are lies. Very simple. Very clear. And the only truth is love. That does not mean I hide from the uncomfortable truths about me my shadow shows me, it means I do not get to use that to hurt myself. Rather, I get to use it as an awareness, I get to use that to grow, self care, choose the path of integrity and self love.
Not perfection, as a human there will always be the challenge of choosing between self love and self loathing. And, giving myself the compassion to allow myself to choose the truth, not the lie. And giving myself the compassion to be patient and understanding with myself as I practice.
Self loathing is a lie and self love is the truth. This is how I practice the integrity of self love and self care.
My heart knows, I am worthy and so I listen.