Day 58 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right
Let go of material obsession.
Now, I’m not saying drop everything and go live off the grid. I mean, if that’s your thing, well, have at it. I’m also not saying don’t get yourself something nice, sure, enjoy.
Who I am speaking to is the women who have lost sight of the value of men as people and have looked at what men can buy them instead. I touched on this on Day 16 where I talk about not taking advantage of the generosity of men. Here I want to go further.
If you are one of those women who feels you have the right to demand gifts, jewelry, etc and refuse to talk to men otherwise- you have a problem. This is not intimacy. This is entitlement saying ‘you need to pay me for my time’. It’s an underhanded form of prostitution. In fact even prostitutes off duty don’t act like this. Prostitutes off duty enjoy having a good time with the guys. So, if you’re one of the gals who feels entitled to gifts because of your gender, you have some work to do in being healthy in relationships.
Ask yourself, why do you think you deserve this? Because you are female? Because you are beautiful? I have some news for you. No matter how pretty your skin looks if your focus is material obsession men will be able to spot you and see you for who you are. If you are not capable of intimacy, please take the time to heal yourself. No man deserves to be treated like a wallet and no, you don’t deserve a diamond tiara for knowing how to wear make-up and having a vagina. Come back down to Earth princess and you will see worlds open to you. If you let go of that defense mechanism, because it is a defense mechanism, you will have deep fulfillment within and you be able to receive love on levels you haven’t even dreamed of.
I invite you to let go of material obsession and open your heart instead, that’s where the real gold is.