Day 32 of 100 Days on how to treat men right and lead with your heart in relationship and daily interactions with men.
#32 Don’t end your relationships sounding like a howler monkey.
This is for those ladies at the end of a relationship. You have a choice on ending this amicably.
A good friend of mine Living Art has this wisdom to share:
“When we leave another whole and complete we leave ourselves whole and complete as well.”
Very true! It’s vital when you end to do your best to end it with appreciation and love. That can be hard when emotions are high. However, you spent amazing times with this man. Leave him with appreciation for the time you spent together. Share with him what you enjoyed about him, how great it felt with him, your favorite times together. Thank him for the gifts(s) he left you with such as his love, affection and laughter. Maybe he helped you reach a deeper level of intimacy you had not allowed yourself to have before. Maybe he introduced you to something new you hadn’t heard of before such as food, an event or something as deep as being able to trust him, his receptivity to your affection, his love of you.
Leave him feeling whole and complete and you will also feel the same as Living Art shared. How you complete with him reflects on you. No matter what, you always have a choice. You came in with an open heart, now leave the same way. Don’t leave him with wounds to heal because of pain of ‘loss’. Instead of seeing this end of relationship as a loss, remember all that you were gifted by this man being in your life. Even if at first you find hard to find the gifts.
Make a list of all that you enjoyed about him and your time together. Share this with him. It is possible to say goodbye and thank you at the same time. And healthy for you both!
Completing with love is the best way to complete. It may take practice but it’s vital. Coming off as a howler monkey servies no one.
Don’t be that howler monkey: