Day 21 of 100 Days on how to treat men right and lead with your heart in relationship and daily interactions with men.
#21 You’re not his boss, you’re his partner.
You’ve heard of the ‘ban bossy’ so called campaign and read my response to it. So, let’s be very clear here. When you are in relationship that requires a give and take. Compromise from both partners. If you feel the need to be ‘bossy’ what you are doing is actually acting like a self entitled brat. You cannot order people around. Perhaps you were never told this, but that kind of behavior is unacceptable and unhealthy.
What he wants is also very important. When you start to take his needs for granted you set a very dangerous precedent. When you demand that your voice be heard above his and do not take the time to receive healthy critique, you have created an excuse, to abuse. To hide behind ‘don’t call me bossy because I’m a woman’ when he reflects your actions to you, leaves you stagnant and shuts his voice down as if he is not allowed to confront you on your rude behavior.
Dismissing his voice, shaming him for calling you out on your bratty behavior, this is all abusive. You are being a bully.
Time to grow up. If you feel the need to control your boyfriend/husbands actions, you are not healthy nor mature enough to be in relationship. It may be best you go back to your crib and bottle until you are ready to grow up and be a healthy member of society and an equal and healthy partner.