So, I’ve been thinking, I do this at times, I know, dangerous! I’ve been thinking about supremacy. I don’t agree with supremacy nor do I operate with that in my BDSM, however, I know there are those who do. The way I see it, and good god it’s take me YEARS to get here, is that there is nothing harmful about supremacy if done within the BDSM realm or if outside BDSM realm done with the same boundaries ‘Safe, Sane, Consensual’.
I’ve noticed the major problems arise when that goes out the window. Of course this is why I believe BDSM as such an essential part of human connection even if those who learn it decide to not go deeper into the BDSM world. The basis of BDSM I strongly feel is essential for healthy human connection.
So, I started looking at supremacy groups in society, even ones I completely, completely do not agree with and start to create the conversation not of saying they shouldn’t exist but of teaching them to move that into creating a healthy way of expressing that. To say they should not exist suppresses what is there which can lead to dangerous explosions of violence towards themselves and/or others. To teach them how to go into this fantasy-even if it’s not fantasy to them, so probably best not to address it as fantasy-in a ‘Safe, Sane, Consensual’ way would alleviate so much tension in our society and I believe create more harmony amongst the many, many human tribes.
This acceptance and healthy outlet for expression would help clarify human communication and I believe help dissipate any self hatred in people who may have cognitive dissonance regarding supremacy-I’m not saying all do, but any who do experience this may find relief. Also, this may hopefully dissipate the rage against these people. Hey, when a supremacist comes in my realm, I’m no mercy vocally.
However, if they learn how to create a space where they can feel accepted and safe to be themselves, it would seem there would be less spill out into daily life. Meaning less non-consensual interactions with supremacists and I think supremacists would feel relieved and happier as well, leading them to fulfilling daily lives. Supremacy, can at times be emotionally charged. Whether I understand all of the supremacist groups or not, emotions must be expressed or this creates dangerous situations for them and others. The reason for all of this education itself, again even though I’m in non-agreement- supremacy may not be harmful, but recklessness with supremacy is and can and has turned criminal.
Meanwhile, I will continue to respond accordingly towards reckless supremacists. I have no problem letting them know their recklessness is unacceptable and I will verbalize that how I see fit. If and when they trample my boundaries or those of the human rights of others, that’s when they need correction. I’m completely available to teach said correction.