“Do you think that sexually submissive men fostered and encouraged, or even brought into existence (and hence bear responsibility for) the female supremacy/superiority movement?”
I don’t support any female supremacy/superiority movement and yes they have indeed joined with feminism which, well, that sums up feminism for you. I would say the fantasy of female supremacy irresponsibly leaking out into society is indeed a problem. Would I say submissive men are at fault for this? I would say they are a part of this. You can’t have a Dom without a sub. However, ultimately it’s a Doms responsibility to have self discipline. That’s not the role of the sub/slave to keep the Dom in check. If a Dom cannot check themselves by keeping their fantasy within the realm of consensual, they are not a true Dom.
There is still a confusion with BDSM that has not been clarified. Female supremacists have absolutely joined in with feminism. That’s a problem.
As a Dom, I see BDSM as a Sacred Sexual Art [Tantric/Spiritual] and learned how to do it with intention of fun and healing. To me, being a Dom is being a teacher. When you choose a teacher you respect that teacher and receive their knowledge and with a Dom, they introduce you to sensations and experiences that you’ve never known or enhance those you do know. This has nothing to do with supremacy/inferiority at all. It has to do with surrender. I know other Doms who are also focusing on helping people have healthy BDSM interactions.
As a submissive, I suggest you seek out these healthy Doms and no longer support the female supremacist movement. You can still have your fantasy play but with those who do will do so in a healthy way who can create the fantasy for you but will also support you as the human being that you are. THAT is vital. This may take some searching, but take your time and get to know what the next Dom you submit to stands for. Yes, interview the Dom. If you need help with this, I have no problem giving you pointers on screening your next Dom. I know that can be intimidating for subs, I will support you in this if you need assistance and always trust your instinct as the final say in order to stay safe.
I don’t believe in female supremacy and in real time I have a very big problem with it. If it’s done in a safe, sane and consensual manner, then it’s fantasy play, and to each their own. I have seen people who do race play who are supremacists who can do so in a healthy way. THAT is a very taboo subject as well but they keep it in a healthy manner. Would we be concerned if they wished to bring this out into society as how everyone should live?? YES! And that is the same concern with what is in action right now regarding female supremacy and feminism.
Those who shame submissives do not understand that it is a personal, private and powerful choice that requires a really deep delving into self. I know, I was a submissive as well for several years. I haven’t written about that part of me quite just yet. Being a submissive is a vital part of learning how to be a Dom. You cannot give what you don’t know. It’s vital to know what paddles, canes, violet wands, etc. feel like in order to apply the appropriate pressure and/or pain level and ensure safety. You don’t give a cane to someone who has never been caned themselves. Absolutely not. The way I teach, everyone needs to learn how to submit first whether they will move into being a Dom, Switch, Sub or Slave. It’s vital. Being a submissive requires a lot of introspection and brings you into experiences that are extremely healing if done with an appropriate Dom.
My hope is to help those who enter BDSM, submissive men/women/trans, make sure they get a Dom who is healthy and above all else safe, sane and consensual in all that they do.
I’ve seen female supremacists online who link BDSM with feminism and that shit needs to stop. They need to be ousted for the abusers they are.
A Dom does not inflict her fantasy on society. That is NOT safe, sane or consensual. That is abuse, manipulation and can be criminal. Any self appraised Dom who does so is NOT a Dom at all. A Dom does not need to feel ‘superior’ that is bullshit. That is NOT a Dom but a bratty little girl playing dress up with big girl clothes and toys and I’ve had it with them. They are not Doms they are reckless supremacists that must be put in their place. I have no problem volunteering to do that.
Any questions feel free to ask, I’m here anyway I can support. No one should ever feel ashamed to be submissive that is a personal choice and part of the choosers authentic sexuality. And being authentic with our sexuality VERY healthy. Shaming of male subs is still shaming of male sexuality. I’m working to also share more about healthy BDSM in the future.