Find a healthy way to guide the inner destroyer.
We as women have a very dark destructive side to us. All humans do, I’m speaking to the women right now as this dark feminine is never spoken about and often shoved down in society.
Those in society who cannot acknowledge the destructive feminine, cannot see a woman in full. Instead they project an illusion of the fluffy feminine as if that is the only side of woman that exists. No. And to buy such illusion is to fear receiving the full being that is woman.
It’s important to be conscious of when the destroyer shows up. Destruction is a powerful force that isn’t bad or wrong in itself, it’s the application of destruction that is the catalyst for how we decide to create. How we guide our destruction, determines our lives. It is not easy and it is necessary.
Destroyer is beyond anger, it’s a core hellfire rage that needs direction. Healthy direction. It can support a strong stand ‘for’ new choices in life including self care choices. That deep fire rage that says ‘nope, not doing that anymore, time for a healthy creation’. This is really great, again, when the person is healthy and guides the destroyer to promote self responsibility.
Unhealthy destruction exists when a person is disconnected from self responsibility and in victim mode. The person guides the destroyer to then hurt someone or break something such as relationships, important jobs, supportive projects, etc. This can turn into abuse. Self abuse or abuse of partner. There is no power in hurting others, that is a weak and self loathing action. There is no power in hurting self, this keeps self love unseen and unacknowledged. Self love always exists, it is the acceptance and acknowledgment of self love that is a choice. We can choose to receive love or not, it is always there.
The unhealthy person uses destroyer to hurt and avoid love. The healthy person guides destroyer to complete with old habits that are not serving them anymore. They use destroyer to nurture themselves and to learn humility in learning new knowledge.
The female destroyer is intense and if harnessed with intent for growth, can clear up old habits that need to die. She’s a powerful force that is inspiring and makes way for powerful creations, when received as such.
However, if used for excuse to hurt, there is something deeper going on and I advise professional help. There is nothing wrong with feeling, feeling is important and there is nothing wrong with being conscious of hellfire. But if it seems too hard to not hurt oneself or others when this comes present, get support to step away from being abuser.
Destruction is a beautiful part of creation, but only with a healthy guide.