Day 39 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right

Day 39 of 100 Days of advice on how to treat men right in relationship and daily interactions with men.

#39 Be still and listen to the voice of men.

This is vital to the advice before on caring enough to take the time to understand men. We women are quite verbose. This may have to do with the fact that we need it for higher levels of oxytocin that’s like our own personal internal happy pill. [I've been watching a video by John Gray and though I don't agree with all he says or how he presents it, there are facts he shares that make sense]

The key is, we can often dominate a conversation with our own excitement to talk. It may not even be conscious but we women often do it.

I’m sure you have much to say, however, there is a great exercise in fully being present and listening when a man talks. Not in ‘Can’t wait to respond’ way, but in a deep listening.

Next time you are around a group of men or with your partner or friend, try and stay conscious of whether you are actually listening.

This includes the written word. Reading what the men around you are writing whether it’s on Facebook or another social media or on activism sites. It’s vital to take in what men have to say. The next step will be comprehending. I will go into depth about that some more tomorrow. Comprehending often takes changing the filters from which we listen from. It takes work, but as I said in the advice before this: if you care, you will take the time to understand.

https://www.facebook.com/returnofwomen/posts/707247902659549?stream_ref=10

Day 38 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right

Day 38 of 100 Days of advice on how to treat men right in relationship and daily interactions with men.

#38 Care enough to take the time to understand men.

In our society it’s become so common place for men to be dismissed instead of society taking the time and caring to understand men. To put ourselves in a man’s shoes and wonder what it would be like for a man in this world.

Take the time to understand men. To be a part of recognizing the beauty, power, wisdom that man holds. Instead of throwing your hands in the air and say ‘men!’ as if that statement means it’s OK to dismiss men because you do not understand, take the time!

Be present, let go of any old stories that block you from taking in the unique perspective that is man. Old stories that make it seem as if you were never meant to understand men, or that it’s futile to try. That only hurts the men in your life and hurts your relationship with men on a personal level and out in the world.

Maybe you don’t understand what it’s like for men, but if you care, you will take the time to understand.

 

https://www.facebook.com/returnofwomen/posts/707230529327953?stream_ref=10

Day 37 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right

Day 37 of 100 Days of advice on how to treat men right in relationship and daily interactions with men.

#37 Compliment his body.

Men can also become insecure about their bodies, they are human after all, remember? Let him know how much you love his body and how it excites you. What can also be amazing is take an evening alone and take your time expressing how every par of him is beautiful and excites you and you appreciate. Men need body love too. You can even take time before hand and write what you want to say or you can take the time to kiss his entire body. Appreciation of his body is very important as well. Just like we enjoy appreciation of our bodies. He takes the time to tell you how beautiful you look, have you told him how handsome he is lately?

 

 

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Day 36 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right

Day 36 of 100 Days of advice on how to treat men right in relationship and daily interactions with men.

#36 Express and share your love of men!

It’s not often that men in our society are shown love and celebrated just for being. What’s worse is the billboards of Game of Thrones all over NYC that say ‘All Men Must Die’. Now, yes, I’ve heard many dismiss it as ‘oh it’s just about a book/show’ but the fact is men still have to see this everyday and they are all over the city. I’ve read many of the books, and watch much of the show, I’m actually on book 5. The fact is what men see daily is a billboard that still says ‘All Men Must Die’. To say that has no impact on men, I’m not buying it.

So, here at The Return of Femininity we’re showing our love to counteract the hate. Feel free to share your own ‘I love Men’ photo here!

Thank you for reading and remember, don’t be afraid to express and share your love of men!

Also, feel free to message me here at The Return of Femininity where I’m collecting ways in which women celebrate men!:

https://www.facebook.com/returnofwomen

Here are more photos of my ‘All Men Must Be Loved’ Campaign:

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You can read about my experience doing this in a blog post if you scroll down [will see if I can find a way to link it here, bare with me I am not the most tech savvy person]

 

Day 35 of 100 Days of Advice on How to Treat Men Right

Day 35 of 100 Days of advice on how to treat men right in relationship and daily interactions with men.

#35 The end of a relationship is not the fault of every man on the planet.

Yes, the end of relationships can be painful [or not depending on each relationship, some end amicably] however, stay conscious to not lash out at the entire gender of men because it didn’t turn out the way you wished. This is not the fault of a gender.

I know you may come to a point where you feel rage but just let it be rage, let it be pain, let it be whatever is present for you. Then let it go. Don’t carry the story after you’ve cleared it. You may be hurt but remember to not project that onto an entire gender. It also won’t help you heal and just will keep you from feeling the pain. Just let yourself feel how you feel. That’s absolutely healthy. What’s not healthy is projecting that into an ‘I hate men’ mantra.

Love yourself enough to heal yourself, creating the bitter mantra of ‘I hate men’ is not healing for you or anyone.